Bliss Manifesto


I'm trying to create a better life for myself any way I can. Life is supposed to be fun, and I plan to be having more of that!

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Artichoke/stupid Tumblr reply is not working

Eggs before bread crumbs/cheese, lemon and thyme. You aren’t going to eat the lemon. It’s there to flavor everything, add some moisture and prevent oxidation. I bake salmon with lemon slices a lot. It’s great. To eat, remove the lemon and herbs, go for the egg first, then eat artichoke as per usual. I don’t completely eat any of the leaves. I just scrape the good parts off with the back of my teeth. Then, eat the heart and the stem. Stem is actually my favorite part. Does that make me bi?

See, this points up exactly my problems with the recipe! How can I remove the lemon before eating, if I have actually cooked the egg on top of it? Do I just sort of overturn the egg with my spoon? Oh, wait now, I see what you are saying: you are suggesting that I do the opposite of what the recipe says, and actually put the eggs in first, then the stuffing mix, then the lemon on top. Then, remove lemon before eating. 

And you are saying, eat the stuffing & egg with a spoon, then attack the artichoke with my hands just like always. Okay, I see it. However, this confirms my original impression that the recipe as published was no bueno.

Also: the stem? Really? I never ate that! Is it like broccoli stem? Seriously I feel like I need to rush to the store this minute and get artichoke.

P.S. “Bi?” LOL yes of course.

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Yeah, I am 4ever immature

srcdoeslife replied to your post: My Workout For Friday December 07

nice snatch

AHAHAHAHAH!!! Ohhhhh that will never get old… thank you.

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Foodie Jokes

srcdoeslife replied to your photo: All that remains of the chicken wings I made, from…

1000? Are they made from real baby?

BAHAHAHAH!! My daughter and I joke about that all the time. Whenever we want to express that a food is just waaaaayyy too haute-hemp-granola-hippie, we say it’s made with organic artisanal Nigerian baby flesh.

Anyway, I have no real notion why wings are so calorically overblown, except that they have a lot of skin, which is the fatty stuff. So it’s basically 1000 calories of saturated goodness.

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livelong-andprosper:

Made myself a healthy/paleo vision board for my room! :) Just some reminders to stay on track.

WHOA you guys look at this amazing vision board!! Moxy, are you looking? Sean? My house is a complete wreck right now with the painters everywhere but I will make a board soon, I swear I will!!!!

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In Which Old People are Old

srcdoeslife replied to your post: WTFBBQ??!!!

it makes me feel like the old people on tumblr to be anti pop tarts, but why would anyone want to eat a pop tart ever?

I KNOW!! I mean, yeah, the filling is super-sugary and sort of softly chewy. But the crust part is the grossest. Completely not worth eating. If I’m gonna eat 300+ calories of carbs, I want it to be good stuff, not something I’ll regret after the first bite. 

And you kids stay offa my lawn!!

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Pose to open the ankles a bit

I did think of one pose that is good for the ankles while I was on my mat this morning: Malasana, the Yoga Squat Pose.

Put your feet wider than hip distance, maybe as wide as mat width apart, and keep your feet parallel to each other. Teachers differ on this point, but my teacher says that by keeping your feet parallel, you minimize your chances of knee issues. And I definitely want to minimize that. So, parallel. And then bend the knees and sink down into a squat, getting your butt as close to the ground as you can. (BTW, it turns out this pose is a swell hip opener, too. Hello!) Bring your hands to Namaste position (also called Anjuli Mudra) and press the elbows into the inner knee, opening up the pose a bit. Exhale and extend the spine.

If your heels rise off the ground as you sink down, support them with a rolled-up blanket or towel.

If you are just in general agony in the pose, you can shove a block or two under your butt to support the whole situation.

This pose can be a real challenge for newbies. But it is a hip opener, ankle flexibility worker, tones and massages the internal organs, stretches the low back and hips a bit, wakes up the inner thighs… it’s full of yoga goodness. And also it’s key for preparing for cool arm balances like Bakasana. I know you want that stuff, man!

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srcdoeslife:

Flashback to last summer. I was happy and fat. I don’t want to be sad and skinny. My ultimate goal is for us to be healthy mind, body and spirit.

That was actually a big mental block for me. Took a long time to uncover it. Not being a lady of a certain age, you have probably not spent much time reading weight-loss/self-help type books. Anyway, one exercise this book had me do was to visualize myself thin in various situations such as at a party or out and about, whatever. And then visualize myself fat in the same situations and so forth. And this is a way of examining what your unconscious attitudes towards being fat and thin might be. So I did not do the exercises very seriously. But about a year later it finally dawned on me that whenever I imagined myself thin, I was always alone in the picture. No family, no friends, no date. I was completely alone. And I realized that actually, the times in my life that I have been the thinnest were also very lonely, sad, difficult times for me. And that I might have been associating thin-ness with all these other issues.
And after that, my plateau broke. That was a couple years ago now, a whole different plateau!

srcdoeslife:

Flashback to last summer. I was happy and fat. I don’t want to be sad and skinny. My ultimate goal is for us to be healthy mind, body and spirit.

That was actually a big mental block for me. Took a long time to uncover it. Not being a lady of a certain age, you have probably not spent much time reading weight-loss/self-help type books. Anyway, one exercise this book had me do was to visualize myself thin in various situations such as at a party or out and about, whatever. And then visualize myself fat in the same situations and so forth. And this is a way of examining what your unconscious attitudes towards being fat and thin might be. So I did not do the exercises very seriously. But about a year later it finally dawned on me that whenever I imagined myself thin, I was always alone in the picture. No family, no friends, no date. I was completely alone. And I realized that actually, the times in my life that I have been the thinnest were also very lonely, sad, difficult times for me. And that I might have been associating thin-ness with all these other issues.

And after that, my plateau broke. That was a couple years ago now, a whole different plateau!

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Compromise?

srcdoeslife:

When I said I’d do anything to lose the weight, I guess I didn’t know what anything really meant. For the past eight months, I’ve been extremely focused on diet, exercise and generally doing things in a very me-first manner.  I’ve nearly destroyed my relationship. I’ve alienated friends and family members. My performance and commitment to work has been inconsistent. I’m sure I drive my coworkers crazy with my incessant health and fitness highs and lows.

The easy solution is to try to find some “balance,” but what does balance really mean? When I say some balance would be nice, what I really mean is that I want to find the magical secret to have all of these balls in the air in absolute harmony. Is that even possible? That doesn’t sound like balance any more than saying flexibility means being a contortionist. It’s just another example of me stroking my ego with the fantasy of unrealistic goals and expectations.

Balance by definition means compromise, right?  Compromise is one of the hardest things for me.  Until recently, I’ve thought of compromise as losing, that people compromise because they have to, not because they want to. I need to learn that compromise is synthesis, not losing.

I am not compassionate enough. I am not appreciative enough. I don’t express enough gratitude. I don’t want to be fit and isolated. I want to be better all around. I never would have guessed that compromise can take me there, but I need to start practicing it — and ASAP.

How?

I think the key here is somewhere in the idea of having all the balls in the air. How high do you have to toss those balls, anyway? How hard do you need to make yourself work? Is that a level of work that you can do forever? Because that is your real time frame here. The compromise, the flexibility, lies in finding a level of effort that you can do forever. Until you are too old to rise from your chair unaided. 

That’s why it’s not a good plan to isolate or cut off from your friends and your daily life, right? Because you get lonesome eventually and then you lean back towards that direction and because of how you have set up the situation, that automatically means leaning away from your fitness routine. 

So you need to re-organize the situation completely, such that fitness is in the same direction as the rest of your life somehow. For instance, regarding your relationship: is there any way to integrate fitness or self-care into that area? Can you and your sweetie do things like cooking together, maybe walking or jogging together, or maybe you can treat her and yourself to regular couples’ massages? Maybe take a yoga class together? (She will no doubt enjoy that more that you will, but that is sort of the point there, I guess. And it would be good for you too, Mr. Type-A-Lawyer-Overachiever Person.)

In my life, food is the key to better life-integration socially. I made a real effort to keep on eating in restaurants even when I began altering my diet and even when I went all the way Paleo. I try to go out with my friends pretty often, although of course my schedule is not too cooperative there. This means that sometimes, my restaurant meals won’t be perfect. But it’s more sustainable that way, see? Because I can go out and have some fun while still staying on my fitness groove. I see styrofoam clamshells full of very good-looking food on your desk scrolling by on my dash all the time; I know you could be doing this with friends/family if you tried a bit. You certainly have the ability to do it.

Just slow yourself down a bit, maybe. Try to find a level of intensity that you can keep up with. For example, when I started doing P90X, I let myself take a break from running. Because doing yoga, P90X AND running seemed really like too much. Not that  I could not do it physically. I think I could. But I do like to do other things besides exercise! And in a few weeks when P90X is over, I will get my running shoes back out. 

Another way to add limits or structure is to have a clearly-defined, narrow focus. So, for example, in my running, I will either work on distance or speed, but not both at once. (Since I am slow and do not run very far, both these examples are not very intense things, LOL.) Or in yoga, I will work on one pose/movement at a time for a few weeks, like Headstand or hip openers or arm binds. If it gets boring or I feel stuck, I just shift to a different focus for a while. In the muscle department, I’ve been working on pull-ups for months now. I must say that I am making very slow progress there. SIGH. Keep pushing on.

So that’s what I have to offer. Narrow your focus, add limits. Integrate self-care into your primary relationships. Use social engagements as a way to practice appropriate eating. Reorganize your mental set-up so that fitness and social life are not opposing each other.

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